I'm 16 and a junior in high school I've had low self confidence since about 8th grade..which is around when i started gettin acne, but it has cleared up alot since then..i get nervous around people i dont know %26 especially girls..if some one gets in my face, even if i can beat the hell out of them, i feel intimidated and it makes me scared to step up..
I've read online about it, talked with friends n parents and i always get the same result, ill feel ALOT better, ill feel great and confident for a day or two %26 then im back to my normal self, ive made some big strides but still really lack confidence my friends seem to all have.. i'm not ugly and im in really good shape %26get good grades..so its like i have no reason to not be confident but i'm just not..
I notice that xanax/booze make me feel 100 times better in that area..and i always have alot more fun on them because of that n it makes me want to do them more..but i dont wanna have to get fucked up to feel good about my self.
Answer:
First of all, booze/drugs won't help you confidence in the long run. You may actually end up with lower self-esteem if you continue on this path. Or worse, you could actually hurt yourself or someone else by accident.
I, also, had confidence problems as a teen. For me, I was confident when I was doing school work, or art, but in social circles, I felt inadequate.
Honestly, you can basically just try to get through these high school years. There's not to much longer to go. You can make it through without giving up.
College is an entirely different experience. Everything will be so much better, I promise. When, you get there, it's more like you're an adult and finally all that advice the adults give you actually works.
There is no magic long term answer, except continually reminding yourself that you are not ugly, that you are just as good as everyone else. And the fact that you don't fight when someone get's in your face is nothing to be ashamed of.
Also, try to participate in things that make you feel comfortable and confident.
It may take years, but you will overcome this setback. And one day, you will love yourself entirely again, and you will shine.
Keep your chin up, and...
Love Yourself.
just practice speaking out more.idk
why don't you try helping the underdog who is in the position you were at one time =you might get a surprise and feel a lot of confidence in yourself by helping them=pills and booze will only age you faster and what girl wants to be with or marry that kind of guy think about it okay
Stay away from drugs and alcohol because that can lead to a very serious addiction that will only be harder to kick when you're older.
Having low self-confidence is completely normal for teenagers. Guys can be stuck in puberty until they're 20 years old or even older. Everyone is different. Your hormones are raging, which will explain the good days and the bad days. The misconception is that only girls get this way, but it's simply not true. Everyone does.
Work on having a positive outlook on everything when you feel low, try to convince yourself to feel better. It takes some practice, but it really works. Until your moods have leveled out, just know that this is part of being a teenager.
Whatever you do, stay away from drugs of any kind and alcohol abuse. I don't mean to sound like one of those "drugs and alcohol are EVIL!" kind of people, but with the way you're using them, you'll get addicted fast and it'll just make your life hell. Don't do it to yourself.
Sounds like a case of depression. I felt the same way, and I still do alot of the time. Confidence can only come from you loving yourself for who you are. You can have ppl compliment you, but thats only a temporary confidence, it usually fades after a couple days (like you said) . You need to focus on something that you're good at. Do great in it and you'll be amazed at how great you feel about yourself.
It has nothing to do with looks ect.. Majority of good looking people have low self confidence. Because I think... People seem to expect more from us. It feels liek you have to live up to expectations put there by sociaty and if you dont, you're not good enough.
The attitude I find that works is. Who gives a living CRAP. Be who you are, and if no one likes it, tell them to goto hell. And have fun. do what you love doing and enjoy life, you only live once.
http://www.conqueringstress.com... has a section about self confidence. Practise one of the 3 relaxation exercises at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2, and note the tips at the mental-health-abc %26 conquering stress sites. See http://www.coolnurse.com/self_ (.com/self_esteem3.htm)
You will grow out of this in time I think. Maybe you could work with a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist. That seems the best treatment for what you describe.
Xanax is a benzodiazepine and is highly addictive and will worsen your anxiety and mental state if you get addicted to it as will alcohol.
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